The Debate.

LOVE. What is it? And why is it that sometimes the most extraordinary love is best let go of?

The question of great love versus right love:

Great love.  This all encompassing madness sends you reeling.  It’s more powerful than one can put into words.  There is this electrifying connection between the two people involved.  No matter what they go through, they still feel bound to one another in a sense.  It’s stunning, beautiful, and infuriating.  This type of love doesn’t always involve happiness.  A lot of the time this love clouds just how unhappy people really are.  It’s the type of love that cancels out compatibility, and truly follows the path of the heart.  Passionate and extraordinary lack in description to express the feelings one has with great love.  (Luckily enough, it usually endures, whether or not you end up with this person in the end or not, since that isn’t always how this love is meant to be.  It endures forever in your heart, and so do they.)

Right love.  This type of love consistently brings out the best in you.  It makes you smile every morning when you wake up, and every night before you go to bed.  It makes you happy, and light.  There is a weight lifted off your shoulders, a comfort, and a foreseeable future.  It’s full of special moments, bright eyes, and utter content.  It is a love we all yearn for.  The love that reminds us to be the best we possibly can everyday.  The love that remains at our sides and never lets go.  This love entails surprise love letters, nights of passionate love, and the look shared between two lovers that know they are meant to spend forever in each other’s embrace. 

Sometimes, no matter how extraordinary great love can be, one must let go to realize that right love is just around the corner and is offering them a lifetime of bliss and a never ending supply of happiness.  Still, the great love remains, and for some it never ends.  However, the luckiest of all find a love that doesn’t make them chose.  This love is both great, and right.  It’s something I like to call true love.  Those butterflies remain, but only because after all this time you are still happy.  This love is crazy, and beautiful, all consuming, but you still manage to remain yourself amidst it all, and love your partner for doing the same.  You pick each other up when you stumble, and love them for every piece of their wonderful soul.  Like any other relationship fights occur and sometimes the light of happiness dims, but it always endures.  True love is hard work and messy, but it is a combination of the best that love has to offer. 

Whatever type of love befalls you, best of luck.

-K 

You, me, Oui.

I am in charge of how I feel and today I am choosing HAPPINESS.

So.  I don't usually write blogs that update my life like I'm about to.  But I am just so incredibly happy I feel the need to share.

Let me begin with an explanation of the quote I chose to start this off on.

Happiness.

For a brief while this eluded me.

I was so incredibly far from happy, and just couldn't see it.

I focused too much on making others happy, that I forgot about myself.

Fear got in the way too.

However, my eyes were finally opened.

The words went straight into one ear, and stayed.

Sometimes, the people closest to you can force you into reality.

I was slowly fading away, until suddenly, I wasn't anymore.

The quote above is my mantra.

It helps me hold on to the happy I feel.

The path of happiness made just for me, by me.

I wake up every day with this simple phrase in mind.

When life is so beautiful,

you just have to enjoy it.

Even through the ups and the downs,

and the mistakes and heartbreaks.

So, now that I've offered up a short background, I'm going to gush about Paris.

 This is at Chateau de Versailles.  So absolutely beautiful.  This also happens to be my favorite fountain on the grounds.

 This is one of my favorite people here.  We kinda just clicked.  She likes cats so I knew we would going to get a long just fine.  Oh yeah, and we like to go sit under the Eiffel Tower with bread, wine, cheese, and chocolate (the staple items for meals in Paris of course).

 I eat a lot of macrons here. It's kinda my thing. 

 I also like to pose weird.  Funny pictures are the best.  This gem is in front of Chateau de Versailles. Remarkably beautiful.    

 I kinda have a new boyfriend.  As you can tell, we're in love. 

 These girls are pretty darn great.  

 Sarah decided I can only eat macrons if she and or Rosalia are around to witness it...weird I know. But she's super cool[insert french accent here] so its okay:)

 I even got to enjoy this beautiful city with my brother.  It was a wonderful way to begin my adventure.

This is our signature pose for pictures together. We look like models right? haha.

Well, I feel that is an appropriate expression of what happiness is to me.

Its all about the adventure, the enthusiasm, the excitement, and above all the belief that everything works out just as it should and you might as well sit back and enjoy the ride.

Au revoir mes amis!

-K

Boxes.

This is all about boxes.

Not in the literal sense.

I mean it figuratively.

Imagine a box around your person.

It represents the comfort zone.

Inside of this box you will find home.

You are rarely lost, and know everyone in town.

It's so comfortable.

Mom and dad are there, so is your best friend.

Your school is probably there too and all your favorite hang outs.

It really is the most pristine place to be.

Why take a gamble and step out when things are so good?

I think the question ought to be: why not?

Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to jump right out of that comfortable box.

I can't say the landing will be smooth when you do.

It's not the right decision for everyone to make.

But my oh my, it sure can be a wonderful one.

My jump has led to a quarter in Paris.

A journey I decided to take on my own.

I cannot begin to express the many emotions I feel.

Terribly frightened, yet entirely excited, and monumentally overwhelmed.

What an experience I have awaiting me,

all because I took that first step out of my box.

"LIFE BEGINS AT THE END OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE."

-K

Soul Mates.

While reading Eat Pray Love today I stumbled across an excerpt that caught my attention from Liz's travels in India.  I happen to really appreciate Richard from Texas, and he happens to say some pretty great things.  So let me share a passage that rings heavily with truths about what a soul mate could be.  It's an interesting way to approach the topic that most people assume means "meant to be" forever.

"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants.  But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that's holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.  A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.  But to live with a soul mate forever?  Nah.  Too painful.  Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. "-Richard from Texas

Intriguing yes? This book is beyond wonderful from insights like this to inspiration in the form of self discovery and enlightenment.  I'd recommend it highly as a read that will put a smile on your face while you follow the story of a woman on a journey to re-find herself.  PS this book will also make you want to TRAVEL. Fair warning.  

-K

The Discovery.

Its funny the way things turn out sometimes.

I guess it's true, all great changes really are preceded by chaos.

In life, not everything is always what it seems.

However, we can trick ourselves into believing that everything is just fine.

Even when fine fails to describe how un healthy a situation can be.

This false descriptor ties into something I call, the difference between

  loving someone and being in love with someone. 

Sometimes, it takes the other persons final actions to make you realize that you only loved them all along, and maybe you really weren't meant to be with one another.  

Which then leads to something which recently struck me as so obvious that I can't believe I missed it all along.

Before we can truly give ourselves to someone, we have to be happy with who we are.

If you cannot make yourself happy, how can you make your significant other happy?

"We must be our own before we can be another's."-Ralph Waldo Emerson

It's as if I opened my eyes to a whole new world.

And I feel as if I owe a thank you in a way.

Something seemingly so terrible has led me in a pursuit of happiness.

A happiness that depends directly on myself.

If you ever get the chance to discover who you really are, 

take it.

It will lead you on an amazing journey down the path of self discovery.

-K

Destiny Defined.

Is destiny determined by chance or by choice?

This simple question offers no simple answer.

I guess the truth is, we will never know.

Maybe our destiny is determined by the choices we make,

or maybe fate is playing its hand in our lives.

In the end it comes down to what you choose to believe.

I happen to believe in fate.

Everything happens for a reason, whether we understand it or not.

Every experience leads us to our destiny, even if we fail to recognize it.

These experiences are not simply our choices, but chances we take.

A combination of the two.

With it comes uncertainty and fear.

Which is why I like to believe in something like fate.

What is life without such uncertainty?

Belief in fate allows me to appreciate the events that take place in my life,

and to know that everything that happens is meant to be (in life and love).

So, I ask again, is destiny determined by chance or by choice?

There is no wrong answer to this question.

What do you choose believe? 

 

Vulnerability.

Giving your heart to someone is scary.
That feeling of immense vulnerability,
putting something so sensitive in the hands of someone else.
Giving your heart to someone is amazing.
There is nothing better than being in love,
and having someone by your side that cares deeply for you.
Giving your heart to someone isn't always easy.
The uncertainty of the matter is frightening.
But uncertainty is what makes life interesting.
Who knows what the outcomes of things will be.
Its important to give your heart in the now,
and enjoy every moment that you have with that person.
There's no use focusing on the things that scare you and leave you wondering.
When you're in love what matters are:
the never-ending conversations,
the butterflies you get with just one look,
the electricity of a passionate kiss,
the warmth of comfort you feel from a simple hug.


Throw your fears away.

Fall in love.

Take a chance, and don't look back.

-K