Katie. I can't believe one full month has gone by since you've left this Earth. The feelings I have are indescribable. Nothing compares to the hurt of losing you. Every time I come across something with red white and blue or new recipes on the internet or stupid mustache or cat jokes I want to text it to you. Then I have to remind myself that I can't do that anymore. Your beautiful life was cut far too short. It's still hard for me to wrap my head and heart around the reality of it all. I loved you so much it hurt. We didn't always get along, I know how much you hated my passive aggressive cleaning tactics in the apartment, and sometimes I allowed myself to drift emotionally and push you far away. I hope you know that through it all I always loved you and I always will. You were the shining star in my life, the one who made me go out and have fun and embrace life to the fullest. You forced me out of my grandma shell and still loved me for the weirdo I am. Good thing you were one too, we were a pretty good fit. I think back to the first time I met you freshman year, in the god forsaken writing 2 class at UCSB. We didn't talk that quarter, but I remember you. Then later that year we both ended up in pottery and you immediately started talking to me and we realized that we had been in that class together earlier in the year. That was it, the beginning of a beautiful friendship. You told me all about ballroom and I showed up the next day ecstatic for class and absolutely mesmerized by your shining light and vivacious personality. We became best friends in an instant. Over the next four years we were inseparable. Almost all my pictures are with you. When we chose to live together junior and senior year we were literally ALWAYS together. If I wasn't at work or school I was out with you, or snap chatting you, or texting you. Even as time went on and we were growing up and apart in different ways, we still made time for each other. You are, were, and always will be, my best friend. It breaks my heart to think about your last words to me that night and how I somehow knew that something wasn't right. I never imagined a life without you in it, and it pains me to accept the reality of it now. I still feel you all around me, laughing at the dumb things I do, and high giving me for some other things I know you'd be proud of. I had a dream about you the night after the tragic incident, well more than one but this one I will never forget. You looked me in the eyes and said that you should never have gone out that night. I really believe it was you visiting me, and I wish I could change things and bring you back. I often think about what would have happened if I had been with you that night like we had planned earlier, maybe we could have been elsewhere, or I would have held you up long enough changing to see the boys that none of this would have happened to you. It constantly nags at my head and my heart, all the what ifs, but I know that they are only thoughts and the pain of this terrible incident demands to be confronted and dealt with. I talk about you everyday, in my heart you are still here. Somehow, all my stories always involve you. Sometimes that fact makes me smile and my hearts warms, and other times it brings me to tears and I can't catch my breath. A piece of me will always be missing without you darling girl. I hope that there is a heaven or some beautiful place where you can feel all the love and prayers we are sending you. I also hope you have lots of supplies for baking, beer for snappa and 7/11's, red white and blue to drape yourself in, and angels to hold your hand through it all. The world we live in is a little less bright without you darling girl. I love you to infinity and beyond, always and forever.
She was fierce, she was strong
she wasn't simple, she was crazy
and sometimes she barely slept.
She always had something to say.
She had flaws and that was okay,
and when she was down, she got
right back up. She was a beast
in her own way, but one idea
described her best, she was
unstoppable and she took anything
she wanted with a smile.
-r.m. drake
Love you Katie.
-K